The Shy Singer

 

#1 – 01Feb05

VIKKI FLAWITH, SINGER/SONGWRITER & VOICE TEACHER, VICTORIA, BC

 

Hi.  Well, a couple of weeks ago two different and unassociated people said to me, “Vikki, when are you going to write your book, about voice, and about life?”  I’ve never been quite sure if my philosophy of voice would have a mass appeal, but perhaps a good way for me to start is to write a monthly ezine.  I’ll be discussing the various issues we face when working in the artform known as ‘singing’ – that strangely seem to mirror the issues we face in life.  I hope you find this to be a valuable contribution to your creative growth. ~ Vikki

 

Please note: I’ve taken the liberty of putting you on the subscription list for my ‘zine; if you’d rather not receive it, please scroll down and use the link to unsubscribe. 

 

 

Stumbling is Part of the Journey

 

Our society is a dysfunctional one.  We seem to have this huge reverence-worship for Hollywood-made artists and pop stars, billionaires and high profile ‘bad uns’.  We rush out to see the latest big film, maybe buy the best-selling book or the number one CD, but in the midst of the all the noise and hero-worship, we forget that artistry is simple.  That art in itself belongs to all of us, and that we all have the ability to pursue and perform art on a daily basis.

 

This brings me to the issue of talent.  Whether you call it creativity, artistry, ability or talent, there is a pervasive myth in our culture that says you are either born with it or without it, and if you are without it, there’s simply no point in trying.  Forgive my less than polite, fervent and loud opinion of that point of view: it’s a crock.

 

Now, I’m not saying that if you were born without a voicebox you can find a way to speak - altho there is technology to do that now.  I’m not saying that someone without arms can paint - altho there are people painting with their toes.  I’m not saying that if you were born without the use of your legs that you can run a marathon - altho there are wheelchair marathons.  I’m simply saying that, if you are willing to open yourself up to the possibility of doing the impossible, if you are willing do the work, stick to your guns, and ignore the protests/beliefs of the nay-sayers, you can do anything humanly possible – and maybe more.

 

Part of the issue is how you are going to define ‘success’ as you pursue your artistic dream.  In the beginning, success should be simply and clearly defining time and space in your life for your artistic practice.  It’s certainly not about being perfect, or comparing yourself to other artists (and finding yourself wanting).  It’s doing the work, and then feeling the satisfaction of knowing that you did it.  It’s experiencing, in the moment, the active working of your creative muscle... and knowing that, as you routinely flex and work this muscle, it will become stronger and stronger.  Baby steps, day by day, falling, getting up, doing it again.  Routinely challenging yourself to take the risk of being with and in your art, warts and all.

 

“To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong.”

...Joseph Chilton Pearce

 

Many of us have, to a great extent, deeply integrated the idea that perfection is key to success.  Making mistakes is bad, we are told at work, at home, in our relationships... there’s little patience for those of us who are clumsy or shy, timid or inexperienced.  “Do it right or don’t do it at all.”  Yet we all yearn for unconditional love and acceptance!

 

As many of you know, there’s a huge contradiction in vocal practice.  On the one hand, we say, “don’t forget your legato, your breathing, your shaping, your expansion, your ‘right thinking’,” yet, on the other hand we say, “believe in yourself, let go, open up, be free.”  “Dance as you sing, but keep your lips wrapped around your voice!”  Balancing these two points of view is essential... but takes time.  Be too critical of yourself, and good intentions become tension and inhibit the voice.  Be too free, let go too much, and the voice sits improperly in the throat and we lose clarity and ease in functioning. 

 

CONSIDER:  Think about the possibility that your stumbles are crucial to your experience of the creative process.  Think about the fact that we learn, in voice, by simply doing, then adding new thoughts, and doing again, and experiencing the difference.  If there was no before, how could we have an after?  And if we have no before & no after, then how do we learn?  How do we grow?

 

“Work each day on your thoughts rather than concentrating on your behaviour.  It is your thinking that creates the feelings you have and ultimately your actions as well.  Catch yourself when you verbalize thoughts that are self-defeating. What we see is evidence of what we believe.”  [Wayne Dyer, You’ll See it When You Believe It]

 

Apply the above to our singing: what we hear is evidence of what we believe, isn’t it?  If we think positive thoughts, focused on supporting our voice to be the best it can be, by breathing, shaping and believing... we free the voice from expectation and allow it to be... we surrender to the breath and to the voice, and the voice comes naturally to the right place.  Suddenly what was hesitant now flows, what was high is easy... and our perspective is changed.

 

 

LOVES ME, LOVES ME NOT:

‘Sundays at the JBI’ requested submissions for their annual ‘Loves Me, Loves Me Not’ Valentine night.  I submitted, and they’ve asked me to participate.  That’s gonna be at the James Bay Inn, Sunday, February 13th.   I’m not sure what time it starts yet (probably 7:30 pm), but if you’d like to come and hear me read an excerpt from my current work, that would be great.  Let me know, I’ll give you the details as soon as I have them. ~ Vikki

 

PAT BAY & THE MALAHATS:

a.k.a. student Judy Fainstein and her rock & roll band, will be playing a gig at the Velox Rugby Club, 3957 Gordon Head Road, on Saturday, February 26th.  Doors open at 8 pm, and tickets are $10 each (available from Judy, 592-1387).  Cash Bar, Door Prizes. 

 

Judy says: “This is a chance to kick up your heels and celebrate the coming of Spring!  It is an informal event in a relaxed atmosphere – lots of fun!  We are pre-selling tickets, however, there will be some available at the door, space permitting.”

 

 

A FINAL THOUGHT:

 “When we stay with the familiar, we take no risks.  If we do not risk we do not have to change.  Avoid change and we can explain that the reason for our lack of growth is a multitude of external circumstances.  It is a comfortable-seeming circle that keeps us safe, albeit stuck in place, and in a place that seldom serves us or those we love....”

[Wayne Dyer, You’ll See it When You Believe It]

 

 

NOTES & LINKS:

 

Alexander Technique: teaches a person to recognize and change habits that interfere with well integrated functioning. The student is guided by the teacher's tactile and verbal cues, which are designed to elicit a specific reorganization of the body, primarily focused on the head to spine relationship. The student participates in a new kinesthetic experience, allowing the natural ease of movement to emerge.”  Gwen Dobie is a well-respected practitioner of AT and is located in James Bay.  Give her a ring at 389-0611 for an appointment.

 

Demo Recording:  DJ Promotions Recording Studio, located in Brentwood Bay, offers a variety of services.  Producer Dan Spedding is a terrific guitarist, a creative and versatile musician, and an all-around nice guy.  Check out his website, or contact him at 818-4568.

 

Songwriters Association of Canadawww.songwriters.ca

 

Taxi – www.taxi.com – good articles on the music biz

 

 

Vikki Flawith, Singer/Songwriter & Voice Teacher

 

"What I really want my students to 'get' from my studio is the knowledge that the life of an artist is a process. We must find time for our art in our daily lives, for it is when we are in the act of creating, or studying (practicing) that we affect what is unseen in us. The act of 'doing' over and over again trains the subconscious to do things in a new, more holistic and natural way. Thus each 'doing' is a tiny but transformative event on the path to self-discovery and creativity. Each step, each practice, each song, each lesson, each performance, is part of a whole -- a joyfully artistic life."

 

Email: vflawith@islandnet.com  ~  Web: www.islandnet.com/~vflawith